布萊爾演講：珍惜現(xiàn)在把握未來(2)
Be a firm friend not a fair-weather friend. It is your friendships, including those friends you made here at Yale, at this time, that sustain and enrich the human spirit.
A good test of a person is who turns up at their funeral and with what sincerity. Try not to sit the test too early, of course.
Recently, I attended a funeral and the speaker said he would like to begin by reading a list of all those whose funerals he would rather have been attending, but the list was too long. It was a sweet compliment to our friend.
Alternatively there was Spike Milligan, the quintessential English comic who when he was asked what he would like as the epitaph on his tombstone replied : “They should write: I told you l was ill.”
There was a colleague of mine in the British Parliament who once asked another:” why do people take such an instant dislike to me?” and got the reply:” Because it saves time.”
So, when others think of you, let them think not with their lips but their hearts of a good friend and a gracious acquaintance.
Above all, however, have a purpose in life. Life is not about living but about striving. When you get up, get up motivated. Live with a perpetual sense of urgency. And make at least part of that purpose about something bigger than you.
There are great careers. There are also great causes.
Ht least let some of them into your Lives. Giving hefts the heart in a way that getting never can. Maybe it really was Oscar Wilde who said: “No one ever died, saying if only l had one more day at the office.”
One small but shocking sentence: each year three million children die in Africa from preventable disease or conflict.
The key word? Preventable.
When all is said and done, there is usually more said than done.
Be a doer not a commentator. Seek responsibility rather than shirk it. People often ask me about leadership, l say: leadership is about wanting the responsibility to be on your shoulders, not ignoring its weight but knowing someone has to carry it and, reaching out for that person to be you. Leaders are heat-seekers not heat-deflectors.
And luck?
You have all the luck you need. You are here, at Yale, and what-apart from the hats-could be better?
You have something else: your parents.
When you are your age, you can never imagine being our age. But believe me, when you’re our age we remember clearly being your age. That’s why I am so careful about young men and my daughter, “Don’t tell me what you’re thinking. I know what you’re thinking.”
But as a parent let me tell you something about parents. Despite all rational impulses, despite all evidence to the contrary, despite what we think you do to us and what you think we do to you-and yes, it is often hell on both sides-the plain, unvarnished truth is we love you. Simply, profoundly, utterly.
I remember, back in the mists of time, my Dad greeting me off the train at Durham railway station. I was a student at Oxford. Oxford and Cambridge are for Britain kind of like Yale and Harvard, only more so. It was a big deal. I had been away for my first year and was coming home.
I stepped off the train. My hair was roughly the length of Rumpelstiltskin’s and unwashed. I had no shoes and no shirt. My jeans were torn-and this was in the days before this became a fashion item. Worst of all, we had just moved house. Mum had thrown out the sitting room drapes. I had retrieved them and made a sleeveless long coat with them.
My Dad greeted me. There were all his friends at the station. Beside me, their kids looked paragons of responsibility.
He saw the drapes, and visibly winced. They did kind of stand out. I took pity on him.
“Dad”, I said. “There is good news. I don’t do drugs.”
He looked me in the eye and said: “Son, the bad news is if you’re looking like this and you’re not doing drugs we’ve got a real problem.”
Your parents look at you today with love. They know how hard it is to make the grade and they respect you for making it.
And tomorrow as I know, as a parent of one of this class, as you receive your graduation, their hearts will beat with the nature rhythm of pride. Pride in what you have achieved. Pride in who you are.
They will be nervous for you, as you stand on the threshold of a new adventure for they know the many obstacles that lie ahead.
But they will be confident that you can surmount them, for they know also the strength of character and of spirit that has taken you thus far.
To my fellow parents: I say, let us rejoice and be glad together.
To the Yale College Class of 2008, I say: well done; and may blessings and good fortune be yours in the years to come.
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