如何給別人留下好的第一印象

　　You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so how are you at making a good first impression in English?

　　Being able to make a FLUENT first impression doesn’t have to be as hard as you think. The beauty of first impressions is that we already know 3 things that are going to happen in the conversation, a greeting/hello, an introduction, and a goodbye/farewell. If you can memorize and even script these 3 situations, then you bound to make a fluent first impression every time.

　　For me, learning to speak Portuguese has been a difficult journey, and very intimidating when meeting new people. At the beginning I always worried about making a mistake during an introduction, offending someone, or making a bad first impression in general.About 4 months into my learning experience, I decided to learn and memorize every possible greeting, introduction and goodbye I could think of. Suddenly, I felt invincible and a lot more natural when meeting new people. My Portuguese didn’t sound so robotic, and surprisingly enough I was just saying the same words in the same situations over and over again. From my fluent first impressions, people were complimenting me on how natural my Portuguese was, even though I had only greeted them, introduced myself and used a few ice breaking techniques.

　　Using these techniques of having a fluent first impression, made me feel more confident and relaxed when speaking and it pushed me to work harder on improving my fluency in all areas of the language.

　　In this article you are going to learn how to make a FLUENT first impression in English based on these 3 most important aspects you’re going to be faced with every time, greetings/hellos, introductions/ ice breakers and goodbyes.

　　你永遠也不會得到第二個機會來制造第一印象，所以如何能用英文流利的給對方留下良好印象呢?

　　給對方留下一個流利的第一印象并非像你想象的那么難。第一印象在對話中的魅力之處無非包含3件事情，這個已經(jīng)廣為人知。那就是問好，介紹和告別。如果你能記下甚至像寫電影腳本一樣寫下這三個場景，那么你肯定每次都能給別人留下流利的印象。

　　對于我個人而言，學(xué)說葡萄牙語曾經(jīng)是件痛苦艱難的旅程，每當(dāng)見到生人我就變得很膽怯。剛開始時，我老是擔(dān)心我在做自我介紹時說錯話，冒犯了別人或是給對方留下不好印象。經(jīng)過4個月的學(xué)習(xí)過程，我決定學(xué)習(xí)并盡可能背下來我所能想到的所有問候，介紹和告別的方式。突然間，我感到再見到生人后自己無敵了而且放松自然多了。我的葡萄牙語聽上去并不那么生硬，而且令人驚奇的是我?guī)缀醪煌５卦诿總€場合用同樣的話來應(yīng)酬。從我給人們留下流利的第一印象可以看出，雖然我只是用了幾個簡單的問好，自我介紹和打破尷尬氣氛的技巧，人們還是恭維我，說我的葡萄牙語好。

　　使用這些讓我擁有良好第一印象的技巧讓我感到講話時更自信放松，而且它促使我積極改進語言各個領(lǐng)域的流利度。

　　本文中你將學(xué)會如何用英文流利地給對方留下良好印象，我將介紹3個您每次都要面對的重要部分——問好;介紹、打破僵局;結(jié)束對話。

　　一. Greetings/ Hellos 問好篇

　　大部分人都知道問好的方式如下：

　　-“Hi, How are you?”

　　-“Fine thanks, and you?”

　　-“Good, thanks for asking.”

　　這個對話確實百分百正確，而且可能已經(jīng)被英語學(xué)習(xí)者百分百的用過了。但是，你不覺得用了這么久已經(jīng)感到厭煩了嗎?如果你想讓自己的問候有特色些，聽起來更流利些，請放棄使用那些課堂上教科書中的用法，我們有其它方法。您看下面這個聽起來如何：

　　嘿，哥們兒!(朋友)最近忙啥呢?

　　嗨，老兄!也沒忙啥，就是上上班，跟好朋友逛逛街啥的。

　　不錯嘛。

　　這聽起是不是自然多了?那么， UP TO是什么意思呢?

　　up to這個用法是do的同義詞。我們在英文口語中使用它因為它是一個不正式的表達方法。當(dāng)我用“what have you been up to?”這種方式來問候別人時，我實際是在問他們最近在忙什么呢。

　　這個問題是用現(xiàn)在完成進行時來提問的，所以回答時也用進行時態(tài)的這個動詞。例如：

　　 “Hey mate, what have you been up to?”

　　“Ah, the same old, studying, surfing, going out, having some drinks with friends.”

　　 “Have you been playing guitar?”

　　 “yeah I’ve been playing a few times a week.”

　　 “You been watching the football?”

　　 “Nah, I don’t really like watching football.”

　　你會發(fā)現(xiàn)對于一個母語使用者，他們在問候兄弟時很喜歡用現(xiàn)在完成進行時。當(dāng)有人用這種方式問好時，對話聽起來更順暢自然，會使我們簡單迅速地羅列出最近發(fā)生的重要事項。

　　二. Introductions/ Ice breakers介紹/打破僵局篇

　　你要知道當(dāng)用其它語言介紹你自己時，人們想要知道的信息總是一樣的。作為巴西的一個外國佬，我所做過的自我介紹次數(shù)多的自己都記不清楚了。

　　人們總是要問你同樣的問題。

　　你叫什么名字?(你很可能要無數(shù)次地回答這個問題，那么讓自己聽起來更英語范兒吧)

　　你來自哪里?(準(zhǔn)備好描述你所在城市的地理特征)

　　來這干什么?(人們總是很好奇)

　　還有一種方法可以給人留下良好印象，同時又能讓對方張口談自己或他們的城市。這種方式可以再自我介紹部分后以打破僵局的形式來完成。

　　 So, where are you from?

　　 Is your family from here/there?

　　 What did you think of the soccer last night?

　　 What do you think of this place/the beer/the music here?

　　 Don’t you just hate waiting in line/this music/the noise?

　　打破沉悶僵局的辦法很簡單，那就是讓對方說，而你只需坐在那里傾聽就可以了。當(dāng)然，你可能認為這是個別案例，但這是一種能夠幫你在使用英文跟人打交道時提升自信的好辦法。等你適用國多次后，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)對話開始變得輕松自然，而你很快就可以提升你流利的第一印象，進而使英文處處流利。