雙語閱讀：真愛的含義

　　以下是小編整理的情感類英語美文欣賞：真愛的含義，希望對(duì)你有所感觸。

　　Love means that I know the person I love. I’m aware of the many sides of the other person----not just the beautiful side but also the limitations, inconsistencies and flaws. I have anawareness of the other’s feelings and thoughts, and I experience something of the core ofthat person. I can penetrate social masks and roles and see the other person on a deeperlevel.

　　愛意味著我了解我所愛的人。我認(rèn)識(shí)到對(duì)方的許多方面，不僅是美麗閃光的一面，還有能力上的不足、反復(fù)無常和性格上的缺陷。我了解對(duì)方的感情和想法，我能體驗(yàn)到那個(gè)人身上的某種本質(zhì)的東西。我能透過對(duì)方社交場(chǎng)合的表現(xiàn)和在社會(huì)的角色，看到他更深層次的品質(zhì)。

　　Love means that I care about the welfare of the person I love. To the extent that it is genuine,my caring is not a smothering of the person or a possessive clinging. On the contrary, mycaring liberates both of us. If I care about you, I’m concerned about your growth, and I hopeyou will become all that you can become. Consequently, I don’t put up roadblocks to what youdo that enhances you as a person, even though it may result in my discomfort at times.

　　愛意味著我關(guān)心我所愛的人的幸福。只要這種關(guān)心是真誠(chéng)的，那么它就不會(huì)是某種壓抑或占有性的依附。與此相反，我的關(guān)心會(huì)使我們兩個(gè)都不受到束縛。如果我在乎你，我就會(huì)關(guān)注你的成長(zhǎng)，我希望你將來成為一個(gè)有所作為的人。因此，對(duì)你為完善自己所做的一切，我決不設(shè)置障礙，即使你做的事情有時(shí)會(huì)使我不快。

　　Love means having respect for the dignity of the person I love. If I love you, I can see you as aseparate person, with your own values and thoughts and feelings, and I do not insist that yousurrender you identity and conform to an image of what I expect you to be for me. I canallow and encourage you to stand alone and to be who you are, and I avoid treating you asan object or using you primarily to gratify my own needs.

　　愛意味著尊重我所愛的人的尊嚴(yán)。如果我愛你，我會(huì)把你看成是獨(dú)立的個(gè)體，有自己的價(jià)值觀、思想和感情，我不會(huì)堅(jiān)持讓你放棄自己的特性，使你變成一個(gè)我期望你成為的那種人。我會(huì)允許并鼓勵(lì)你保持獨(dú)立，堅(jiān)持自己的特色，我會(huì)避免把你當(dāng)作一件東西對(duì)待或用你來主要滿足我自身的需要。

　　Love means having a responsibility toward the person I love. If I love you, I’m responsive tomost of your major needs as a person. This responsibility does not entail my doing for youwhat you are capable of doing for yourself; nor does it mean that I run your life for you. Itdoes imply acknowledging that what I am and what I do affects you, so that I am directlyinvolved in your happiness and your misery. A lover does have the capacity to hurt or neglectthe loved one, and in this sense I see that love entails and acceptance of some responsibilityfor the impact my way of being has on you.

　　愛意味著對(duì)我所愛的人付責(zé)任。如果我愛你，我就會(huì)積極對(duì)待你的需要。這種責(zé)任并不等于我要為你做你自己能夠做到的事情，也不是說我為你管理你的生活。它應(yīng)該是承認(rèn)我和我所做的事會(huì)對(duì)你產(chǎn)生影響，因此我直接與你的幸福和痛苦聯(lián)系在一起。一個(gè)人的確可能會(huì)傷害或忽視他所愛的人。從這個(gè)意義上說，愛包含著我要為我(的生活方式)對(duì)你的影響承擔(dān)一定的責(zé)任。

　　Love means growth for both myself and the person I love. If I love you, I am growing as aresult of my love. You are a stimulant for me to become more fully what I might become, andmy loving enhances your being as well. We each grow as a result of caring and being cared for;we each share in an enriching experience that does not detract form our being.

　　愛意味著和所愛的人共同成長(zhǎng)。如果我愛你，我會(huì)為了對(duì)你的愛而成長(zhǎng)。你將是激勵(lì)我更加充實(shí)自己的動(dòng)力，我的愛也會(huì)使你不斷完善提高。我們因愛與被愛而成長(zhǎng);我們彼此分享積累的豐富經(jīng)驗(yàn)而又不削減自己的個(gè)性。

　　Love means making a commitment to the person I love. This commitment does not entailsurrendering our total selves to each other; nor does it imply that the relationship isnecessarily permanent. It does entail a willingness to stay with each other in times of pain,uncertainty, struggle, and despair, as well as in times of calm and enjoyment.

　　愛意味著能夠承諾我所愛的人。這種承諾并不需要我們相互放棄自身的特性;也不是指我們的這種關(guān)系一定要天長(zhǎng)地久。這種承諾不僅包含著愿意在痛苦、猶豫、絕望的時(shí)候相互支持，也包含著共享平靜與歡樂。

　　Love means trusting the person I love. If I love you, I trust that you will accept my caring andmy love and that you won’t deliberately hurt me. I trust that you will find me lovable and thatyou won’t abandon me; I trust the reciprocal nature of our love. If we trust each other, we arewilling to be open to each other and can shed masks and pretenses and reveal our trueselves.

　　愛意味著相信我所愛的人。如果我愛你，我會(huì)相信你將接受我的關(guān)心與愛意，我會(huì)相信你不會(huì)故意把我傷害，我會(huì)相信你終將發(fā)現(xiàn)我的可愛之處，我會(huì)相信你不會(huì)把我棄于不顧;我會(huì)相信我們是相愛的。如果我們彼此信任，我們就愿意敞開心扉，摘下面具，去掉偽裝，顯示我們真實(shí)的自我。

　　Love can tolerate imperfection. In a love relationship there are times of boredom, times whenI may feel like giving up, times of real strain, and times I experience an impasse. Authentic lovedoes not imply enduring happiness. I can stay during rough times, however, because I canremember what we had together in the past, and I can picture what we will have together in ourfuture if we care enough to face our problems and work them through. We agree with ReverendMaier when he writes that love is a spirit that changes life. Love is a way of life that is creativeand that transforms. However, Maier does not view love as being reserved for a perfect world. ”Love is meant for our imperfect world where things go wrong. Love is meant to be a spirit thatworks in painful situations. Love is meant to bring meaning into life where nonsense appears toreign.” In other words, love comes into an imperfect world to make it livable.

　　愛可以容忍缺點(diǎn)。在愛的關(guān)系中，必然會(huì)有厭煩的時(shí)候，有我想放棄的時(shí)候，有關(guān)系緊張的時(shí)候，有我感到絕望的時(shí)候。真愛不僅僅意味著我們能共同分享幸福。在艱難困苦的時(shí)期我也能和你在一起，因?yàn)槲矣浀梦覀冞^去在一起度過的時(shí)光，如果我們對(duì)問題給予足夠的重視，面對(duì)問題并能度過困難時(shí)期，我能想像我們將來在一起是個(gè)什么樣子。我們同意梅爾教士的觀點(diǎn)，即愛是改變生活的精神力量。愛是一種創(chuàng)造性的生活方式并能使生活改善。但是梅爾并不認(rèn)為愛是完美世界獨(dú)有的。“愛是給予我們這個(gè)有問題的不完善的世界的。愛是在痛苦的情況下發(fā)揮作用的精神。愛就是要使看起來無意義的生活變得有意義。”換句話說，愛來到這個(gè)不完美的世界使它適合人們居住。

　　Love is freeing. Love is freely given, not doled out on demand. At the same time, my love foryou is not dependent on whether you fulfill my expectations of you. Authentic love does notimply “I’ll love you when you become perfect or when you become what I expect you tobecome.” Authentic love is not given with strings attached. There is an unconditional qualityabout love.

　　愛是自由的行為。愛是自愿地付出，而不是要求之下的施舍。與此同時(shí)，我對(duì)你的愛并不取決于你是否能滿足我對(duì)你的期望。真愛并不意味著“當(dāng)你成為完美的人或當(dāng)你成為我所期望的那種人時(shí)，我才愛你。”真愛不是帶有附加條件的付出。愛是無條件的。

　　Love is expansive. If I love you, I encourage you to reach out and develop other relationships.Although our love for each other and our commitment to each other might bar certain actionson our parts, we are not totally and exclusively wedded to each other. It is a pseudolove thatcements one person to another in such a way that he or she is not given room to grow. Caseyand Vanceburg put this notion well:

　　愛是博大的。如果我愛你，我會(huì)鼓勵(lì)你向外發(fā)展，建立其他的人際關(guān)系。雖然我們之間的愛和彼此的承諾不允許我們做某些事情，但是我們并不是完全徹底地拴在一起。把一個(gè)人和另一個(gè)人拴在一起，而不給予他發(fā)展的空間，這是一種虛假的愛。凱斯和溫斯伯格對(duì)這個(gè)概念有很好的解釋：

　　The honest evidence of our love is our commitment to encouraging another’s fulldevelopment. We are interdependent personalities who need one another’s presence in orderto fulfill our destiny. And yet, we are also separate individuals. We must come to terms withour struggles alone.

　　我們相互承諾要鼓勵(lì)對(duì)方充分的發(fā)展，這就真實(shí)證明了我們之間的愛。我們是相互依存的，為了完成自己的使命，需要對(duì)方的存在。但我們又是不同的個(gè)體，我們必須各自面對(duì)自己的奮斗。

　　Love means having a want for the person I love without having a need for that person in orderto be complete. If I am nothing without you, then I’m not really free to love you. I love you andyou leave, I’ll experience a loss and be sad and lonely, but I’ll still be able to survive. If I am notfree to challenge our relationship; nor am I free to challenge and confront you. Because ofmy fear of losing you, I’ll settle for less than I want, and this settling will surely lead to feelingsof resentment.

　　愛意味著我需要我所愛的人，但并不是缺少他就不行。如果沒有你我就無法生存，那么我就不能自由的愛你。我愛你，即使你離開了，即使我失落、難過和孤獨(dú)，但我還能活下去。如果我的價(jià)值和我的生存過于依賴于你，那我就沒有自由來審視我們之間的關(guān)系;也就沒有審視和反駁你的自由。因?yàn)槲液ε率ツ?，我就?huì)降低要求，而這種遷就會(huì)使我產(chǎn)生不滿情緒。

　　Love means identifying with the person I love. If I love you, I can empathize with you and seethe world through your eyes. I can identify with you and see the world through your eyes. Ican identify with you because I’m able to see myself in you and you in me. This closeness doesnot imply a continual “togetherness,” for distance and separation are sometimes essential ina loving relationship. Distance and can intensify a loving bond, and it can help us rediscoverourselves, so that we are able to meet each other in a new way.

　　愛意味著理解所愛的人。如果我愛你，我就能與你有同樣的情感，我就能通過你的眼睛去看這世界。我理解你是因?yàn)槲夷軌蛟谀闵砩峡吹轿易约海⒃谖易约荷砩峡吹侥?。這種親密無間并不意味著持續(xù)地呆在一起，有時(shí)候，距離和分別對(duì)于相愛同樣是必要的。距離會(huì)加強(qiáng)愛的聯(lián)系，會(huì)有助于我們重現(xiàn)認(rèn)識(shí)自己，使我們可以以新的方式面對(duì)對(duì)方。

　　Love means selfish. I can only love you if I genuinely love, value, appreciate, and respectmyself. If I am empty, then all I can give you is my emptiness. If I feel that I’m complete andworthwhile in myself, then I’m able to give to you out of my fullness. One of the best ways forme to give you love is by fully enjoying myself with you.

　　愛中充滿了自我。只有我能真正地愛著自己，珍視自己，欣賞自己，尊重自己，我才能愛你。如果我生活空虛，那么我能給予你的只能是我的空虛。如果我感到自己是完整的，有價(jià)值的，那么我就能讓你分享我的充實(shí)。給予我對(duì)你的愛，最好的方式就是和你在一起充分享受我的一切。

　　Love involves seeing the potential within the person we love. In my love for another, I view heror him as the person she or he can become, while still accepting who and what the person isnow. Goethe’s observation is relevant here: by taking people as they are, we make themworse, but by treating them as if they already were what they ought to be, we help make thembetter.

　　愛包含著看到我所愛的人的潛在能力。我愛那個(gè)人，我一方面承認(rèn)他的現(xiàn)狀，另一方面我現(xiàn)在就視他為他將來能夠成為的那種人。歌德有一句與此相關(guān)的評(píng)論：我們?nèi)绻凑杖藗兊默F(xiàn)狀來對(duì)待他們，會(huì)使他們?cè)絹碓讲?，要是按照他們?yīng)該達(dá)到的目標(biāo)來對(duì)待和要求他們，我們就會(huì)促使他們變得更好。

　　We conclude this discussion of the meanings that authentic love has for us by sharing athought from Fromm’s The Art of Loving (1956). His description of mature love sums up theessential characteristics of authentic love quite well:

　　我們把弗羅姆在《愛的藝術(shù)》里闡述的一個(gè)觀點(diǎn)介紹給大家，以此來結(jié)束我們對(duì)真愛含義的論述。他對(duì)成熟的愛的歸納極好地總結(jié)了真愛的基本特征：

　　Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality. Inlove this paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.

　　成熟的愛是兩人的結(jié)合，但又不失各自的完整和特性。愛中有這種矛盾現(xiàn)象：合二為一，卻又一分為二。