雙語(yǔ)美文欣賞：《真愛(ài)教會(huì)我們的17堂課》

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　　Love. It makes the world go ‘round, right? Well, at least that’s the how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn’t either of those things. But these 17 things are. So here are the lessons that real love teaches us:

　　有句話叫做“愛(ài)讓世界轉(zhuǎn)動(dòng)”，果真如此么?應(yīng)該是吧?？墒牵芏嗳藚s把嫉妒或占有誤以為是愛(ài)。真愛(ài)既不是嫉妒也不是占有。但下面這17個(gè)蘊(yùn)意卻能闡釋愛(ài)。請(qǐng)看真愛(ài)能教會(huì)我們什么吧：

　　1. Love doesn’t play the victim role or blame others

　　愛(ài)沒(méi)有“玻璃心”，也不會(huì)苛責(zé)對(duì)方

　　Love works together. It takes responsibility. It forgives and allows other people’s actions to be their journey. Love doesn’t take things personally.

　　愛(ài)是同心協(xié)力，是同舟共濟(jì)，是寬容對(duì)方并放手讓對(duì)方啟程。愛(ài)不會(huì)狹隘地斤斤計(jì)較。

　　2. Love is focusing on quality, not quantity

　　愛(ài)注重質(zhì)量而非數(shù)量

　　Love focuses on the quality of your relationship, not its longevity. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “It’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?” Just because your relationship lasts a long time doesn’t mean that you have true love. Real love can be very brief. Therefore, quality and quantity of love are not the same things.

　　愛(ài)重在彼此關(guān)系的質(zhì)量，而非相處了多長(zhǎng)時(shí)間。相信你肯定聽(tīng)說(shuō)過(guò)這句話——寧愿去愛(ài)去迷失，也總比不曾愛(ài)過(guò)的好。就算你們已經(jīng)相處很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間，也不表示你們就是真心相愛(ài)。真愛(ài)可以很短暫。所以說(shuō)，愛(ài)質(zhì)量和愛(ài)數(shù)量完全是兩碼事。

　　3. Love doesn’t require you to continue a relationship

　　愛(ài)不勉強(qiáng)維持

　　You may love someone very much. But you may not be compatible with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Love doesn’t mean that you have to stay, and stay, and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.

　　或許你非常愛(ài)他，可你們根本就性格不投;或者他總漠視你的情感，讓你痛苦糾纏。當(dāng)然，你仍然可以愛(ài)著他，但這不表示你必須陪在他身邊。愛(ài)不是強(qiáng)作維持無(wú)奈停留。你可以選擇離開(kāi)，但在心里仍然愛(ài)著對(duì)方。

　　4. Love has no room for jealousy

　　愛(ài)沒(méi)有嫉妒

　　Like possession, jealousy doesn’t equal love. We think that if we’re not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don’t love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you, and only you.

　　和占有欲一樣，嫉妒也不是愛(ài)。我們以為要是不嫉妒吃醋，就表示我們根本不愛(ài)對(duì)方。其實(shí)，真愛(ài)完全相信彼此關(guān)系多么可靠，確信那個(gè)人會(huì)很開(kāi)心地選擇你——而且只有你。

　　5. Love includes letting go

　　愛(ài)也是放手

　　Love doesn’t equal possession. Just as the saying goes, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, then it never was.” There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom. It doesn’t hold tightly and crush their wings in attempt to keep them. True love doesn’t want to possess. It is willing to set you free if you want to be.

　　愛(ài)不等于占有。常言道：“如果你喜歡它，就請(qǐng)給它自由。它若能再回來(lái)，便是你的;若不愿回來(lái)，那么它永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)屬于你。” 確實(shí)如此呵!愛(ài)會(huì)給對(duì)方自由。愛(ài)不應(yīng)緊緊拽著對(duì)方，不應(yīng)為了留住對(duì)方而折斷他的翅膀。真愛(ài)不是占有，而是如你所愿地給你自由。

　　6. Love makes you feel good, not bad

　　愛(ài)讓你情緒愉悅，而非低落

　　Many people confuse being in a relationship with love. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean there is true love present. If there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fighting, abuse (verbal, emotional, or physical), that is not love. Refer back to #6. Those are fear-based emotions and actions.

　　許多人分不清相處和愛(ài)。兩人相處并不一定就是真心相愛(ài)。如果伴有嫉妒、占有、經(jīng)常性爭(zhēng)吵，甚至口頭、情感或身體上的暴力，那根本就不是愛(ài)。正如前面第6條所言，這些都是恐懼類的情緒和行為。

　　7. Love is the absence of fear

　　愛(ài)沒(méi)有恐懼

　　You can put all emotions on a continuum. On one end, you have love. Then appreciation. After that, it’s joy, happiness, contentment, and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy, or greed.

　　將所有情緒排列順序，從頭開(kāi)始是愛(ài)、感恩、喜悅、快樂(lè)、知足、滿意，而排在最末尾的便是恐懼。恐懼類情緒還有憎惡、不安、嫉妒或貪婪。

　　8. Love means letting go of expectations

　　愛(ài)意味著拋開(kāi)期望

　　Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. We want them to be more affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for “acceptability” of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves “as is.”

　　自然，我們都希望別人能成為我們所期望的那樣。我們要求他們更柔情、更陽(yáng)光、更聰明或更有抱負(fù)。所有這些都是期望，而期望就是你“愿意”愛(ài)上某人的條件?？墒牵鎼?ài)并不盡是期望——真愛(ài)是能夠接受對(duì)方本來(lái)的樣子。

　　9. Love is an action, not just a feeling

　　愛(ài)不只是感覺(jué)，更是行動(dòng)

　　Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion – especially when it feels good. So when we’re in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess what? That higher than “Cloud 9” feeling goes away after a while. That doesn’t mean you don’t love the other person anymore, it just means that it’s not new anymore. So that’s where the action needs to kick in. Show the person you love them. Don’t just assume they know.

　　人們總是難以抗拒熱烈的情感——尤其是在感覺(jué)良好的時(shí)候。所以一旦陷入愛(ài)，我們就總希望能一直那樣美好。但實(shí)際上呢，那種飄飄欲仙的感覺(jué)稍縱即逝。當(dāng)然，這并不表示你不再愛(ài)他，只能說(shuō)新鮮勁兒過(guò)去了而已。這時(shí)就得拿出行動(dòng)來(lái)證明你愛(ài)他。不要只在心里想當(dāng)然認(rèn)為他知道你愛(ài)他。

　　10. Love is unconditional

　　愛(ài)是無(wú)條件的

　　The word ‘unconditional’ means that there are no expectations or limitations set. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren’t good at that. But true love really does love without trying to change the other person.

　　“無(wú)條件”是指沒(méi)有期望或設(shè)定限制。無(wú)條件去愛(ài)不是件容易的事情，大部分人也都做不到這一點(diǎn)。但是，真正的愛(ài)確實(shí)不需要試圖去改變對(duì)方。

　　11. Love means putting other people’s needs equal to – or before – your own

　　愛(ài)意味著“憂他人之憂”

　　While people may be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don’t put other people’s needs at least equal to your own, they will grow resentful. Real love truly, genuinely cares about other people’s happiness and will go to great lengths to make people feel valued.

　　為了生存，人性難免自私;但自私卻不利于培養(yǎng)感情。如果你沒(méi)能把對(duì)方的需求當(dāng)成自己的事情，那么對(duì)方或許會(huì)心懷不滿。真正的愛(ài)會(huì)不容置疑地“樂(lè)他人之樂(lè)”，并且盡量讓對(duì)方感到受重視。

　　12. Love is not needing and wanting

　　愛(ài)不是需求和渴望

　　One of the things we try to teach kids is that there is a clear difference between a want and a need. Needing someone is a feeling based in fear. You fear that you can’t live without them, so you need them. And remember, fear is the opposite of love. Wanting someone in your life gives them the freedom to leave, but still shows them you love them.

　　我們經(jīng)常教導(dǎo)子女：渴望和需求是不一樣的。你需要某人，那是因?yàn)槟阈牟乜謶郑耗愫ε聸](méi)了他你就無(wú)法生活，所以你需要他?？墒莿e忘了，恐懼和愛(ài)是對(duì)立的。如果你渴望生活中出現(xiàn)某個(gè)人但又愿意給他離開(kāi)的自由，那你才是愛(ài)他的。

　　13. Love requires attention

　　愛(ài)需要關(guān)注

　　Love doesn’t ignore. It doesn’t look the other way. It wants to be present and be together. When people are in love, sometimes they think that they don’t have to “do any more work.” But real love actually enjoys giving attention to another person. It feels good, and doesn’t see giving attention to another person as a chore.

　　愛(ài)不可視而不見(jiàn)，不可心有旁騖;愛(ài)需要即時(shí)即刻在一起。有些人以為相愛(ài)時(shí)無(wú)需“多此一舉”，但真正的愛(ài)其實(shí)是需要給予對(duì)方關(guān)注的。關(guān)心對(duì)方會(huì)讓你感到開(kāi)心，而且一點(diǎn)也不覺(jué)得瑣碎麻煩。

　　14. Love understands and accepts differences

　　愛(ài)理解并接受差異

　　Let’s face it. We’re all different. Even identical twins aren’t exactly the same. They have different experiences and outlooks about the world. Real love doesn’t make other people wrong for being different. When people truly love another person, they accept their differences.

　　事實(shí)上人各有異。即便是長(zhǎng)得相似的雙胞胎也并不完全一樣，他們也會(huì)有不同的經(jīng)歷和世界觀。真正的愛(ài)不會(huì)因?yàn)閷?duì)方不同而加以指責(zé)。若是真心相愛(ài)，人們會(huì)接受各自的差異。

　　15. Love is the highest vibration emotion that there is

　　愛(ài)是世界上最易波動(dòng)的感情

　　Science has proven that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. They can actually measure them. Love vibrates very fast, whereas fear-based emotions (think jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.) vibrate very slowly. When you love completely and unconditionally, there is no fear involved. The vibrations of love make you feel good at all times.

　　科學(xué)表明，愛(ài)和恐懼具有截然不同的波動(dòng)率。這種波動(dòng)率可以實(shí)際測(cè)量出來(lái)：愛(ài)波動(dòng)得非常快，而恐懼類情緒(如嫉妒、占有、憎惡、貪婪等)卻波動(dòng)得極其緩慢。如果你是全身心無(wú)條件去愛(ài)的話，恐懼是不存在的。起伏的愛(ài)會(huì)讓你一直心情高昂。

　　16. Love varies in how it is expressed and accepted

　　表達(dá)與接受方式不同，愛(ài)也隨之各異。

　　What makes us “feel loved” varies. In the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, he explains the different ways people give and receive love: (1) Words (2) Acts of Service, (3) Giving Gifts, (4) Spending Time Together, and (5) Touch. It’s important to discover other people’s love language so you can understand each other and give love in a way that the other person recognizes it.

　　人們陷入愛(ài)的方式各有不同。在《愛(ài)的五種語(yǔ)言》一書中，蓋瑞-恰普曼闡釋了人們給予并接受愛(ài)的不同方式：(1)言語(yǔ)，(2)提供幫助，(3)贈(zèng)送禮物，(4)共享時(shí)光，(5)肢體接觸。因此，觀察對(duì)方的愛(ài)語(yǔ)言很重要，這樣你就能了解彼此，并以對(duì)方能夠接受的方式表達(dá)愛(ài)意。

　　17. Love has empathy

　　愛(ài)能產(chǎn)生同感共鳴

　　Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another person’s shoes and see a situation from his/her point of view. Love has deep empathy. “When you hurt, I hurt.” People who truly love one another don’t want to hurt them. They want them to feel good. They care about their feelings and try everything they can to make them feel valued and worthy.

　　同感共鳴就是你要能站在對(duì)方立場(chǎng)并從對(duì)方角度看待情況。愛(ài)能產(chǎn)生強(qiáng)烈的共鳴。“你痛，我也痛。”所以真正相愛(ài)的人不忍傷害對(duì)方。他們希望看到對(duì)方開(kāi)開(kāi)心心，他們關(guān)心對(duì)方的情緒，愿意做任何事情讓對(duì)方感到被重視。

　　Remember, love is happiness, appreciation, and feeling good. Anything other than that is not love. If we all loved one another as ourselves, the world would be a better place!

　　請(qǐng)記住：愛(ài)是快樂(lè)，是感恩，是心情愉悅。除此之外則并非愛(ài)。如果我們都能以愛(ài)己之心去愛(ài)他人，這個(gè)世界將會(huì)變得更加美好!